I believe that all the trans hookup partners who are going to join in a transgender dating relationship have a certain understanding of the TS hookup relationship, and know the aspects in which the transgender people and cisgender people are different. Since these are two people who differ in many ways, and their life experiences and thoughts are different to a great extent, the dating partners they want to find and the way they want to be treated by their dating partners are also different. So if this is the first time you’ve tried this TS dating relationship, you should know that you can’t treat them the way you look up with cisgender girls.
Don’t get me wrong. I don’t mean to say that a normal dating relationship is completely different from a trans hookup relationship. I mean, if you want to run a successful transgender dating relationship, in addition to these common dating skills, you need some skills that are specifically used in the gay hookup relationship. I hope the following methods can help your hooking up relationship.
Ask them about their preferred personal pronouns
This suggestion is applicable to all TS hook up finders and should be kept in mind by many of them. In a normal dating relationship, we can clearly identify the gender of our partner, and then use the right personal pronoun, she or he, etc. But in a trans dating relationship, this becomes more ambiguous.
Since we are dealing with a transgender person who has two different genders before and after the transition period, we are not sure which way of address she wants to use. When we’re not sure, we should take the initiative and be bold to ask, so as to avoid our date partner being angry by using the wrong personal pronouns. Some transgender people are more likely to use he or him; some transgender people are more likely to use she or her; and for some non-binary people, they are more likely to use ZIE or HIR.
Make sure you communicate well before you make intimate contact
In a normal dating relationship, if you and your date can want to get along well and happily, then you can do a lot of intimate actions under a tacit understanding. Even if you all know that this may be going too fast, it won’t make your date feel very unhappy. However, for a transgender person, they tend to be more sensitive to such intimate actions, which may be because they encounter a lot of discrimination in social life, and people always tend to associate them with pornographic services. So if you offer to go to the bedroom with your transgender dating partner before you have enough trust and communication, your behavior may cause misunderstanding to your dating partner. So before you do intimate acts, show your attitude and sincerely ask your partner for permission. Of course, if he has agreed, in order to avoid making my partner uncomfortable, ask what actions may make her uncomfortable.